When your child asks ‘How do two men do it?’

We live in Vermont where homosexuality is not just in movies; it’s in the news, in schools, in law.   This is the state that created civil unions way back in 2000, legalized same-sex marriage in 2009, and started suing heterosexual people for a child and for a service in 2009 and 2011.

One teacher was so excited when civil unions were concocted that she “came out” to her 3^rd graders.  During the same-sex marriage debate, one legislator voted in favor of it in part because he wanted to support his son who was “gay.”  Same-sex marriage was promoted as an economic bonus—weddings are big business, why not tap into the gay wedding market?  Kids notice unigender couples at school.  One middle schooler in last year’s class dressed like a boy, had two moms, and wondered aloud if she was lesbian.   In short, Vermonters have been talking about same-sex attraction for over a decade.  So it’s not surprising that as we sat at the kitchen counter, my youngest recently asked me, “How do two men do it?”

I took a deep breath and readied myself to give the most succinct explanation possible when I noticed my older daughter shaking her head no in silent warning.  She graduated with a psychology major and currently works with high school age trauma victims.  Each of these kids has been abused, for many it took the form of sexual abuse.  Every day she helps children cope with violated innocence.

So when she signaled me to protect the baby of the family, I reconsidered.  Does my youngest want to know how two men “do it” because of stirrings of the heart or developments in the body?  No, she’s a prepubescent girl; she doesn’t need this information on a personal basis. No doubt she is simply curious and genuinely baffled at the mechanics.

Little wonder she’s curious.  Our culture stirs up confusion about gender and sexuality.  People keep talking about gays at school and on Facebook.  At her gym, one female is currently in the process of transitioning to a male.  This person is rejecting the very gender my little girl is developing into.

A common argument by supporters of same-sex marriage is: How does it affect your marriage?  They miss the point entirely.  The question we all should be asking is:  How will gender-segregated marriage impact children?

Certainly this momentous social experiment will have the greatest impact on the kids adopted by gender-segregated couples, but all children will feel the effects as well. 

How many school kids will learn how two men do it before they are developmentally prepared for such information?  How many families will be sued for recognizing the crucial difference between men and women?  To what extent will gender be vilified?  How many children will be called bigots or hate-filled for believing marriage should be gender-integrated?

The six states that legalized gender-segregated marriage must determine:  When is the best age to teach school children how men do it with each other?  Fifth grade?  Ninth?

As for my daughter, she still isn’t fully informed on how a man and woman make love.  Do I want her introduction to human sexuality to begin with two men?  Is now the best time to help her create a visual image of sodomy?

No.

My little girl has her entire adult life to know about gay sex.  (Luckily she doesn't read the news or the articles about Sandusky might have preempted our future talk.) My job now is to protect her innocence, not rob her of it.  Once you steal a child’s innocence, you can never return it.

But what about all the other children in Connecticut, D.C., Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New York, and Vermont?  Since these states say gender-segregated marriages are equal to gender-integrated marriages, they will need to revamp their health classes to give commensurate attention to homosexual sex acts.  Whereas class time about sexual intercourse between a man and woman can give priority to procreation or its prevention, for two men this is not the case; conception is impossible.  Without this focus, which gay sex acts will be taught and how explicitly?   For every class on How Babies are Made, they will need to give equal time to How Two Men Do It. 

Immeasurably worse than stealing candy from babies, this is stealing innocence from children. 

Canadian sportscaster Goddard loses job for tweet supporting gender-integrated marriage

In response to the debate about gender-segregated marriage in New York, Canadian sportscaster Damian Goddard tweeted the following:

“I completely and whole-heartedly support Todd Reynolds and his support for the traditional and TRUE meaning of marriage.”

 For supporting marriage between one man and one woman, Goddard was fired that same day May 10, 2011. 

And yet GSM rights activists continue to ask robotically:  How does same-sex marriage affect your marriage?  In the comment section below the video, prixator wonders:

I would like to know exactly how your own marriage has been affected in any way since since [sic] marriage rights have been extended to two people of the same sex?

 Really?  The man was fired because of same-sex marriage.  That affects not only him but also his wife and his children.

See video:

Now as spokesman for the Marriage Anti-Defamation Alliance, Goddard works to ensure others can speak up freely: 

“The National Organization for Marriage and MADA are giving people the voice they need to fight back, and, while I wish I had not been fired from my former job, I am thrilled to be able to be a part of this effort."

Make them bake cake?

Citing religious reasons, Iowa baker Victoria Childress declined to bake a wedding cake for gender-segregated couple, Trina Vodraska and Janelle Sievers. 

The Huffington Post quotes the owner of Victoria’s Cake Cottage, Childress: 

"I didn't do the cake because of my convictions for their lifestyle. It is my right, and it's not to discriminate against them. It's not so much to do with them, it's to do with me and my walk with God and what I will answer [to] Him for."

 There is no lack of wedding cake choices; other bakers have offered their business to the unigender couple.  

Will Iowa’s new same-sex marriage law enable gender-segregated couples to sue gender-integrated couples for business as in Vermont?

This is not a cake for a birthday, graduation, or retirement.  This is a cake made specifically to celebrate a wedding, which is a religious occasion.

A right to marry is one thing.  But is America creating the “right” to force others to celebrate a wedding, either with a cake, a reception hall, photography, or one’s own presence?  As a society, will we force others to celebrate a religion contrary to their consciences?

Let them eat cake is a far cry from make them bake cake.

Vermont Senator Patrick Leahy calls requiring gender integration in marriage an ‘injustice’

An advocate of gender-segregated marriage, Senator Patrick Leahy considers requiring gender integration in marriage an “injustice.”  As chairman of the Senate Judiciary Committee, Leahy pushed for a vote on the Respect for Marriage Act (RMA).  This would repeal the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) which defines marriage as a legal union between one man and one woman, and also says states won’t be forced to recognize same-sex unions considered marriage in another state.

Although he voted for DOMA in 1996, Leahy has changed his mind and considers it wrong.  Now he supports RMA, which would require all states to recognize “all state-sanctioned marriages” including those that discriminate against gender.

VPR quotes Leahy:

 "I see it as a vote to right an injustice that goes to the core of what we stand for in this great nation: freedom and equality, the fundamental to make a public and lifetime commitment to one you love and the equality of all state-sanctioned marriages are at the heart of the Respect for Marriage Act." 

According to The National Report, RMA ”would also force states that have defined that issue for themselves to recognize gay marriages performed in other states.”  This issue of states’ rights and gender-segregation crossing state lines is important in child custody cases, such as the tragic story of Isabella Miller.

Republicans claim the move was a waste of time since the bill doesn’t have the support to pass the House.  Leahy said, “It is never the wrong time to right an injustice.” 

Since when did Democrats consider gender-integration an "injustice"?  Far from advancing “freedom and equality,” The Respect for Marriage Act is an insidious assault on gender itself.  RMA will institutionalize gender segregation to the detriment of children.