Judgment is a ‘favorite gay hobby’?

“Judgment, a favorite gay hobby, factors in, too.”  Brooks Barnes

Isn’t that just a wee bit bigoted?  

At least it's a self-validating judgment.

In a New York Times article about gay wedding fatigue, Brooks Barnes asserts that people with same-sex attraction like to critique weddings. 

Judgment, a favorite gay hobby, factors in, too. A lot of my friends, for instance, think it’s weird for two men who have been together for 30 years to have a big, traditional wedding. In the opposite extreme, it’s hard not to worry when new boyfriends decide to leap into marriage.

Judging would certainly be difficult to avoid if you attend a wedding like this one:

Mr. Shields, who has been invited to five gay weddings and has a sixth coming up, recalls two men who married in an art gallery filled with S-and-M paintings. 

“One was a picture of a naked George Washington dwarf standing on top of a pile of slave dwarfs in fetish gear,” he said. “All I could think was, ‘Oh, please, no — we have moms in the room.’ ”

And after waiting so long to redefine marriage to include gender-exclusive couples, people  are grappling with gay wedding fatigue.  

“The equality people will have a fit about this, but I’ll say it anyway: I have gay-wedding burnout,” Mr. Shields, 35, said one day this spring.

Parties won’t end with the gay wedding boomlet.  What's next…

“Oh, just wait,” he said. “We’re now on the other side of the gay-wedding bubble with our friends. You know what’s there? I call it death by gay baby shower.”