Same sex marriage puts ‘who I have sex with’ not ‘who I have kids with’ at center

Tom Hoopes at CatholicVote wonders if President Obama is using Huffington Post as a model for his campaign. 

That could explain Lena Dunham’s offensive and sexist plug for Obama which equates your first vote with your first time having sex.

Regarding marriage, Hoopes asserts: 

The redefinition of marriage puts “who I have sex with” not “who I have kids with” at the center of marriage, changing marriage from a vital social institution to an unnecessary personal contract.

Meanwhile, Huffington Post calls advocates of natural marriage "anti-gay."  Their headline about Dr. Angela McCaskill who was put on administrative leave for exercising her civil rights:  “Angela McCaskill, Gallaudet University Chief Diversity Officer, Placed On Leave For Signing Anti-Gay Marriage Petition.”

Huff Po continuously conflates defending natural marriage with being “anti-gay.”  As if supporting gender-integration in marriage means you are inherently bigoted.

Is Huff Po confused regarding the distinction between gender diversity and sexual orientation?  Is President Obama?

Support pro-gender marriage.  Because gender matters to everyone, including those with same sex attraction.